Why You Don’t Trust Yourself (And How to Start Rebuilding That Trust Today)
Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get said out loud enough:
You don’t trust yourself. Full stop. Yep, I said it.
Not fully, anyway.
You second guess your decisions.
You overthink your instincts.
You look outside yourself for reassurance… a lot.
And then you wonder why everything feels so hard.
How This Actually Shows Up
Self-trust issues don’t always look obvious.
Sometimes it’s:
asking five people for their opinion before making a decision
knowing what you want… and then talking yourself out of it
starting something, then abandoning it halfway through
constantly thinking, “What if I’m wrong?”
It’s subtle.
But it adds up…and it’s sooo hard when you realize that you’re doing this to yourself.
So Why Don’t You Trust Yourself?
Well, usually?
Because somewhere along the way, you learned not to.
Maybe:
your choices were questioned
you were taught to prioritize other people
you made a decision that didn’t go well and decided you can’t be trusted
you’re terrified of making the ‘right’ choice because it might turn out awesome
But now?
You hesitate.
You override yourself.
You wait for certainty that never comes.
Here’s the Problem
Every time you ignore your own voice…you weaken your self-trust.
And every time you follow through—even in a small way—YOU BUILD IT.
This Isn’t About Being Right All the Time
Because you won’t be.
No one is.
Self-trust isn’t:
“I always make perfect decisions.”
It’s:
“I can handle myself, no matter what happens.”
That’s a very different kind of confidence.
Try This
Start small.
Pick something low-stakes:
what you want to eat
how you want to spend your time
whether you actually want to say yes to something
And instead of outsourcing the decision…
Listen. Decide. Follow through.
No spiraling. No polling the group chat. No asking ChatGPT. No Paper Rock Scissors.
Just you.
Let’s Be Honest
You’re not going to think your way into trusting yourself.
You build it through action.
Through showing yourself, over and over again:
“I’ve got me.”
Here’s What I Want You to Take With You
Start small. Follow through. And let that be enough for now.
Remember, you’ve got you!
I believe in you,
Jeremi